Reply: Reply to 2 other classmates by offering 1 new piece of information to add to their discussion of the different theories. Each reply must be minimum 250-word APA format cited referenced biblical worldview
Reference:“Liberty University Custom: Wong, D., Hall, K. R., Justice, C. A., and Hernandez, L. W. (2015). Human growth and development (Custom Package). Thousand Oaks, CA: Sage Publication. ISBN: 9781506355153. *Custom bundle contains Wong et al. (2015), Counseling individuals through the lifespan, ISBN: 9781452217949 and supplemental journal articles.
Anna Post-Although delaying leaving home may be considered a failure, it does not necessarily mean that one is not an adult. A study done by Evie Kins and colleagues at Ghent College found that the motivation behind the living situations is s better indicator of having made the transition into adulthood or not (Kin’s et. Al, 2009). If the parent and the child have reached an arrangement about the living situation, the child could still exhibit complete freedom while still residing in their house and receiving the parents emotional support (Holdsworth, 2006). It is also important to note that living at home does not necessarily result in negative consequences or delayed maturity. In some cases, the young adult is more emotionally stable. The main marker for adulthood and living on one’s own is financial stability.
Being financially stable as a young adult can be challenging. As Clark-Cobb and Gorges note, living at home after college can provide financial stability as well as the opportunity for one to find a good on and save up (Clark-Cobb & Gorgens, 2012). This is a clear benefit of staying at home and not branching out on one’s own. In fact there is s high correlation between parental support seeking employment and education (Clark-Cobb & Gorgens, 2012). In this way, living at home a few years while establishing one’s autonomy may be beneficial.
During this stage of life, the person is in the stage battling isolation versus intimacy. Emotional stability during this stage depends on various things such as living situation, friend group, and financial situation. If one does not have a strong support group, living at home with one’s parents could present a stable environment for the individual to grow into s fully fledged adult role. This is also the stage where one truly defines their personal identity (Wong et. Al., 2015). In a study done by Neyer and Asendorpf, it was found that young adults who live within a partnership tend to emotionally mature faster than those who are single (2001). Being within a partnership provides emotional support and in some cases financial stability. Because establishing a parent-child relationship that is more of a peer relationship is a mark of emotional maturity as well as a transition into adulthood, living with one’s parents can provide a healthy transition for that role. In a study done by Kira Birditt and her colleagues about family maturity and adulthood, it was determined that final family maturity involves a strong personal identity as well as distancing one’s self from the family unit (2008).
In my research I found very little reporting delayed adult maturity based on the living situation. I found many studies that showed positive outcomes of one living at home longer. However, none of these studies involved focuses on possibly abusive parents or living situations. In all these studies, both the parent and the child had the goal of living independently. Financial stability and emotional support are two reasons a young adult would stay with their parents rather than independent living.
Kins, E., & Beyers, W. (2010). Failure to launch, failure to achieve criteria for adulthood? Journal of Adolescent Research, 25(5), 743-777. doi:10.1177/0743558410371126
Holdsworth, C. (2005). ‘when are the children going to leave home!’: Family culture and delayed transitions in spain. European Societies, 7(4), 547-566. doi:10.1080/14616690500342568
Cobb-Clark, D. A., & Gørgens, T. (2014). Parents’ economic support of young-adult children: Do socioeconomic circumstances matter? Journal of Population Economics, 27(2), 447-471. doi:10.1007/s00148-013-0484-6
Neyer, F. J., & Asendorpf, J. B. (2001). Personality-relationship transaction in young adulthood. Journal of Personality and Social Psychology, 81(6), 1190-1204. doi:10.1037//0022-3518.104.22.1680
Birditt, K. S., Fingerman, K. L., Lefkowitz, E. S., & Kamp Dush, C. M. (2008). Parents perceived as peers: Filial maturity in adulthood. Journal of Adult Development, 15(1), 1-12. doi:10.1007/s10804-007-9019-2
Wong, D. W. (2015). Counseling individuals through the lifespan. Los Angeles: SAGE.
Melissa-Adult children living at home is a fairly common occurrence that has been on the increase in recent years. Socioeconomic status and ethnicity have been shown to correlate with the likelihood of adult children living at home with their parents. “Some authors have argued that parents in higher socioeconomic positions may have greater tendency to expect their children to be independent earlier than those with less education and income; others have said that parents with greater incomes might use their resources to help their older adult children to leave home” (Turcotte, 2006). “For young adults grappling with financial and domestic independence, the family home can represent a safe haven; however, living with parents can also pose a threat to autonomy and self-image as they strive for adult status” (Burn & Szoeke, 2016). Some of the other factors that correlate with adult children living at home is the age and marital status of the children (Burn & Szoeke, 2016) and parental determinants tend to relate to the strength or wholeness of the family or household (Burn & Szoeke, 2016). These are just a few of the many potential contributing factors that could affect the possibility of adults children choosing to live at home with their parents. In regards to the possible effects that coresidence can have on the relationship between parents and adult children living at home, studies have shown that there are many positive and negative outcomes. “Most parents report feeling that their child is taking advantage of them” (Burn & Szoeke, 2016). In Ephesians 6:2 it says, “Honor your father and mother that it may be well with you and you may live long on earth” (New Living Translation). However, once a child becomes an adult they have established more independence and may be reluctant to abide by their parent’s rules or requests (Burn & Szoeke, 2016). Financial burdens become commonplace for parent’s who take on more expenses by the increased number in the household. “The most frequent causes of conflict included money, children, and household chores and responsibilities” (Turcotte, 2006). Still, there are many instances when the relationship between parents and adult children can be improved and enjoyed by living in the same house. This time together can increase the likelihood of improve interpersonal relationships and emotional connectedness, increase the likelihood of reciprocal behavior from the children when the parents need support or care, and combat potential loneliness (Burn & Szoeke, 2016). “In some cultures where coresidence is the norm, having adult children living with parents is a generally happy and harmonious arrangement” (Burn & Szoeke, 2016). However, in most situations “cooperation and renegotiation of roles and expectations is required in order to ensure the best possible outcomes for all parties” (Burn & Szoeke, 2016).
Burn, K. & Szoeke, C. (2016). Boomerang families and failure-to-launch: Commentary on adult children living at home. Maturitas, 83(9-12). Retrieved from: www.elsevier.com/locate/maturitas
Turcotte, M. (2006). Parents with adult children living at home. Statistics Canada, 11(8). Retrieved from: http://content.ebscohost.com/ContentServer.asp?T=P&P=AN&K=20245642&S=R&D=f5h&EbscoContent=dGJyMNLe80SeqK84y9fwOLCmr1GeqK9Ssqe4SLOWxWXS&ContentCustomer=dGJyMOrf4H3w6vdT69fnhrnb5ofx6gAA